Is Wellness Just a Trend? Why Therapy Might Not Be Enough
I recently read an article by Tinx, an influencer turned DJ and socialite, who suggested that therapy might be making people ruder. Now, hold on a second—I think she might have had a point. So, I did what any curious person would do and read the article, even though I don’t follow her or know much about her. And you know what? She made some interesting observations. Honestly, I haven’t met many people who are in consistent therapy who don’t eventually get on my nerves—but hear me out.
While I fully support the idea of therapy and what it's supposed to achieve, I’m not convinced that therapy alone can solve all our problems. It often needs to be complemented by something else—or someone else. The purpose of therapy is to help us identify and change troubling emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. That sounds great in theory, but here's the catch: a lot of people lie to themselves. If you're not honest with yourself, how can you be fully honest with your therapist? And if that’s the case, how effective can therapy really be?
I'm not saying we should abandon therapy altogether. The issue, I think, is that there are always three sides to every story: your side, their side, and the truth. To get to the truth, you need to hear both perspectives. That's why I believe couples therapy is fantastic—it helps both parties hear each other out and can serve as a powerful preventive measure.
But here's where things get tricky: a lot of people in therapy walk around as if they’ve been “saved,” and that’s what makes them problematic. They use phrases like "I need to set boundaries," which is crucial, don’t get me wrong. But when it comes to friendships and relationships, sometimes you have to do things not because you want to, but because you care about the other person and know they need you. This isn't about letting people take advantage of you; it’s about knowing the difference between self-care and selfishness.
One of the most important things we can do is celebrate others, even when our own lives aren’t going as planned. Show up for people, even if it’s uncomfortable. Humans need connection, and support matters.
I recently had a friend tell me she didn't want to go to any more weddings because she was going through a divorce and didn’t feel like pretending to be happy. While I believe it’s better to stay home than bring a bad attitude to a joyous event, I also think it's sad how openly selfish we've become. Has everyone forgotten how to be a friend anymore?
Personally, I’ve seen three different therapists, and honestly, none of them helped me much. We went through the same structured questions that felt more frustrating than freeing. I wanted more than just to acknowledge and feel my emotions—I wanted to channel that energy into something meaningful. Therapy didn’t offer me that path, and I realized it wasn’t the right fit for me.
Therapist are supposed to make you feel better and sometimes lie to you and there is some accountability missing in all of this for me.
This realization is what led me to create Good Body Lifestyle. I wanted to offer people a more structured approach to their challenges—life coaching and practical exercises they could do at home to navigate their issues more effectively.
So, what about you? Are you in therapy? Do you think it’s helping, or do you feel like something’s missing?